Anger is never the real emotion — it's just the one that feels powerful. Underneath every outburst is fear, shame, grief, or helplessness. Learn what your anger is actually trying to tell you.
Anger is a secondary emotion. It's the bodyguard that shows up so you don't have to feel the real thing underneath — rejection, shame, fear, helplessness, grief. Anger feels powerful. The others feel vulnerable.
The 'anger iceberg' model, widely used in therapy, shows anger as the visible tip above the waterline, with deeper emotions hidden below.